Thursday, August 1, 2013

Bare your scars. Share your story. ~ A New Post

Recently, while at the lake with my sister and our children, I had a moment I didn't anticipate. As I watched my very pregnant younger sister play and interact with her four children while carrying baby #5 in her 8th month of pregnancy, her beauty took my breath away. In fact, it was her "scars" ~ those marks left by motherhood ~ that made her look so beautiful to me. I told Stephen about this later and said, "Why is it that I can see "scars" on another person and find them beautiful, but hate my own and wish they could be removed?" 

My family and I just returned from a vacation at the beach. At the beach, you see a whole lotta' skin whether you want to or not. While our society defines beauty as skin deep: young, perfect, without scars or wrinkles, I felt connection most with folks who looked like real, everyday people. People like me.

I approached one older woman carrying her small dog, and because I love dogs, I struck up a conversation with her. She was a bit of a mess, had tattoos in unusual places, and looked a little strange how she was carrying her dog. I found myself making a little crack about her in my head, when she said, "This dog helps me so much. I was in a car accident and suffered brain damage. I don't know what I would do without his help." That confession changed my perception completely. She shared a part of her story as I became aware of some of her scars. 

No matter how much of a story we know, we don't know the whole story. 

Your scars tell your story. Who would be able to read a book containing only empty pages? Even new, fresh, inexpensive journals become priceless possessions once they've been marked up a bit with our experiences and our thoughts and opinions. And yet, our culture tells us ~ especially women ~ that our scars, wrinkles, stretch marks, and other signs of real life, make us less valuable or attractive. Don't let culture dictate beauty for you. Culture is a fickle judge anyways. Your body was designed to reveal where life has happened, so bare your scars and share your story. 

•What scars do you tend to hide?

•How do you feel about your scars?

•How might a change of perception change your opinion about your own scars?

Bare your scars. Share your story. 


  1. I will! You have encouraged me. I am going to be 60 on August 29 and I have decided to celebrate life for 60 days! I will journal and share my story, my scars, my life. Thank you, Shelly for this post. It is beautifully inspiring!!

    1. Deborah,

      Happy 60th Birthday! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I'm grateful to hear that this encouraged you.



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