Saturday, October 19, 2013

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Because He First Loved me,

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Take Advantage of What God Has made Available to You

“Take advantage of what God has made available to you.”*

 My children have heard me make this statement so many times they’re probably sick of it by now. But if we’ll take this statement and turn it into a practice, we’ll see God show up and we’ll see Him provide in ways we never imagined!

There are a lot of resources and talents that I do not have. If I wanted to make a list, it would be unending because of all the resources and all the talents that exist in this world. Many of us make these mental lists (of what we don’t have and why we can’t do what we’d like to do because we don’t have what we’d like to have) instead of taking advantage of what God HAS made available to us. Remember, He owns all of what we do possess and all of what we do not possess as well. And we will go a lot further and get there a lot faster when we stop focusing on what we don’t have and begin to make the best with what we do have.

I invite you to read this passage from 2 Kings:

 One day the wife of a man from the guild of prophets called out to Elisha, "Your servant my husband is dead. You well know what a good man he was, devoted to GOD. And now the man to whom he was in debt is on his way to collect by taking my two children as slaves." 2 Elisha said, "I wonder how I can be of help. Tell me, what do you have in your house?" "Nothing," she said. "Well, I do have a little oil." 3-4 "Here's what you do," said Elisha. "Go up and down the street and borrow jugs and bowls from all your neighbors. And not just a few—all you can get. Then come home and lock the door behind you, you and your sons. Pour oil into each container; when each is full, set it aside." 5-6 She did what he said. She locked the door behind her and her sons; as they brought the containers to her, she filled them. When all the jugs and bowls were full, she said to one of her sons, "Another jug, please."     He said, "That's it. There are no more jugs." Then the oil stopped. 7 She went and told the story to the man of God. He said, "Go sell the oil and make good on your debts. Live, both you and your sons, on what's left." 
2 Kings 4:1-7 (MSG) 

This is a pretty powerful story, wouldn’t you agree? It shows us the compassion of God and the power of His provision. With this in mind, let’s see what God is saying to us. If I’m going to take advantage of what God has made available to me; If I’m going to rely on HIS resources, rather than worry about those I do not have, I need to implement these three practices:

1. Identify my resources: Notice that when first asked about what she had, the widow first replied, "nothing." Why do you think this is? Why do we tend to concentrate most on what we don't have rather than what we do have? We have to learn to combat the pull to complain and concentrate on what we don’t have, and instead pay close attention to all that we DO have and then make the most of these resources and talents.

~ What resources do you have? You might want to write these down somewhere before moving onto the next point.

2. Devote who I am and what I have to GOD: “Little is much when God is in it.” Remember the story of the little boy with the five loaves and two fishes? It was enough for his own personal lunch that day. Perhaps he could have split it up two ways to share with a friend. That’s what he could do with what he had. In the story above, the widow only had a little oil. She offered what she had—which wasn’t much. But when these two different people, in different centuries, in different parts of the world, with different resources placed their small offerings into the Master’s Hands…miracles!!

~What would it look like for you to devote yourself and what you have to your Heavenly Father?

3. Believe God for big things and Watch Him work!

 “9For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to give strong support to those whose heart is blameless toward him.”
 II Chronicles 16 (ESV) 

The little boy with the fish and the bread, this widow, the shepherd boy David, and countless others have taken a chance on trusting God with what little they had to offer. Most of us have been given far more than what these had to begin with. God is not as concerned about what we have or don’t have; He’s far more concerned about what we choose to do (or not do) with what we have. All of it belongs to Him anyways, remember?

~What would it look like in 5 years if you began trusting God for big things today?

*This post is taken from the written study guide for the "Wild and Free" Series at Church 4 Chicks written and originally posted at the Church 4 Chicks Blog. If you'd like to participate in the study, either by watching the teaching videos, working through the study guide, or both--which are free to download!-- please visit

(The video messages are on the Media Page under the "Wild and Free" Series titles and the written study guides are made available there as well once the videos are posted.)

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Bare your scars. Share your story. ~ A New Post

Recently, while at the lake with my sister and our children, I had a moment I didn't anticipate. As I watched my very pregnant younger sister play and interact with her four children while carrying baby #5 in her 8th month of pregnancy, her beauty took my breath away. In fact, it was her "scars" ~ those marks left by motherhood ~ that made her look so beautiful to me. I told Stephen about this later and said, "Why is it that I can see "scars" on another person and find them beautiful, but hate my own and wish they could be removed?" 

My family and I just returned from a vacation at the beach. At the beach, you see a whole lotta' skin whether you want to or not. While our society defines beauty as skin deep: young, perfect, without scars or wrinkles, I felt connection most with folks who looked like real, everyday people. People like me.

I approached one older woman carrying her small dog, and because I love dogs, I struck up a conversation with her. She was a bit of a mess, had tattoos in unusual places, and looked a little strange how she was carrying her dog. I found myself making a little crack about her in my head, when she said, "This dog helps me so much. I was in a car accident and suffered brain damage. I don't know what I would do without his help." That confession changed my perception completely. She shared a part of her story as I became aware of some of her scars. 

No matter how much of a story we know, we don't know the whole story. 

Your scars tell your story. Who would be able to read a book containing only empty pages? Even new, fresh, inexpensive journals become priceless possessions once they've been marked up a bit with our experiences and our thoughts and opinions. And yet, our culture tells us ~ especially women ~ that our scars, wrinkles, stretch marks, and other signs of real life, make us less valuable or attractive. Don't let culture dictate beauty for you. Culture is a fickle judge anyways. Your body was designed to reveal where life has happened, so bare your scars and share your story. 

•What scars do you tend to hide?

•How do you feel about your scars?

•How might a change of perception change your opinion about your own scars?

Bare your scars. Share your story. 

Thursday, July 11, 2013

One of the BEST things you can do for your future #marriage

I'm writing today at and I'd love to see you over there!

Today's topic is one where I share one of the absolute best things Stephen and I ever did for our marriage...before we ever even got engaged.

Check it out on Start Marriage Right by following this link:

You can also find my other posts with SMR here:

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Interview with @iBelievecom about "Why Can't We Just Get Along?"

I was first introduced to the great people at when Rebecca Halton and I were interview for Team Redeemed earlier this summer. I am incredibly honored to get to be featured with them again about my book, "Why Can't We Just Get Along?" You can find the short post, plus a 2 minute video right here!

Also, for this week only, if you purchase YOUR copy(ies) of "Why Can't We Just Get Along?" from the online store at, I'll sign your book(s) before we ship them out! This offer is good through July 12 while supplies last!

Grace and Peace,


Thursday, June 27, 2013

Moving On When He Moved Out #TeamRedeemed

As part of this month's Team Redeemed launch, I'm sharing a part of my journey that many have asked about through the years, "How did you move on when your first husband moved out?" You can find the post here.

Saturday, June 1, 2013

#TeamRedeemed launches today!

Visit for today's 
video interview with ~ already over 5,000 views!

There IS life after our worst day!